This post by MumbaiGirl made me realise another issue that has kept me in the dark for quite sometime now.
How are we to deal with people who outlive the gratitude that we shower upon them?
Say, for instance, an aunt helped, during my time of distress by being there for me. This, I have kept in heart for many years and have always, when opportuned, returned the kindness without any expectations, as should rightly. Mostly, the intention is not to repay but to give the kindness uncalculated and without restraint. However, now that we are geographically closer to each other, the ‘real’ self of that aunt is gradually showing her other face.
No, I’m am not referring to the overly protective, concerned, possesive out of care aunt, but of an aunt with a sword for a tongue kind.
If I were to tell her off , does that make ‘me’ ungrateful? Or should ‘I’ put up with it for as long as she or ‘I’ live? Nevermind, it hurts ‘me’ deep? Nevermind she humiliates ‘me’ in public and in private for mundane stuff?
Am ‘I’ being taken advantage of?’