Life of Pi

One of the better reads! Will definitely recommend to have this read.

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2013-The Year

I guess I did (am doing) pretty well. It has been very eventful, nevertheless. Had a number of firsts, like not putting up with nonsense AND saying it out, stepping up to be the elder (like elder elder in our Indian context, ie, customs et al) proper overseas couple vacation, a diverse breakfast menu, to name a few, frequent online shopping, and yes, even marriage counselling!

The management of the homefront is stable beyond belief. I was terrified with the mere thought of running the house with a toddler who is very attached to me and a newborn. It was a baseless worry afterall. I have more time than ever whereby I have watched alot of movies and read more books than I ever did in this last five years!

Make up after a fight is faster this year. Both of us tend to bounce much much sooner after all the shouting, profanities and curses. It tends to get a bit mushy mushy at times too, the make up!

I see myself spending more and more time with the boys and really enjoy doing so too. Of course, I do sneak out when I have too. Went for a few movies and nights out along the way. Night outs, some with hubby, some with colleagues/friends. I did miss my boys, occasionally. Guilt? Sorry, you have come to the wrong person. A little time well spent is better than spending more time in which you are stressed.

Sometimes, I am Nigella Lawson, a mom who cooks up a storm in the kitchen. Other times, if you want breakfast in bed, sleep in the kitchen mom. Who is to judge me? This is just an example of how life has been in 2013, not limited to food this example is!

2013 was very good, inspite of some very low lows.

I have done quite a number of ad hoc reviews this year. Below are the links.

A note to self in 2013
Changed…yet again-brief summary on June.html
Mid year review 2013
9 months down road
Looking back
Masala mix

Yelling at Your Kids

Your toddler starts shrieking moments after your baby finally goes down for her nap. “Don’t wake the baby!” you snap, much louder than you meant to. Your toddler looks at you with wide, frightened eyes.

Soothe it! No one feels good about yelling at their kids. In fact, Pflock and Renner’s survey of mothers found that yelling is the number one cause of mommy guilt.

When this happens, take a careful look at your own behavior. Was the yelling out of the ordinary? Are you usually calm with your child? If yes, then let yourself off the hook and take this as a learning opportunity for both of you. As Elizabeth Pantley says in The No-Cry Discipline Solution, “Even the most peaceful easy-going parent loses patience and yells from time to time.”

Reassure your child that everything is okay, and explain what happened: “Sometimes people yell when they’re upset. But that can hurt people’s feelings. I’m sorry. It would have been better if I had said ‘Please be quiet. The baby is sleeping.”

But if screaming is becoming a habit, you may need to take action to manage your anger and reduce your stress levels.

It takes a caring and understanding partner to acknowledge a mother is a human being too. She doesn’t need additional guilt trip besides the one she gives herself. Trust me, nothing beats her own.

If you can’t help her with the children and household maintenance, then just shove it!

Weekend Stress Busters

Breakfast was gothuma thosai without egg. How one craves for simple childhood breakfast (not that this was made at home). I would consider this thosai to be one of my comfort food. Hot hot thosai with margarine. Awesome!

Made chicken biryani  for lunch using this vegetable biryani recipe My only grouse, I should have made it a tad more spicy.

Baked chocolate cake for tea. All these for Saturday makan-makan.

Sunday afternoon, N asked for candy. He wanted blue coloured candy. Lucky I had shaved coconut in the freezer. Left to defreeze and candy was made. The boy sat at the dining table and refused to move!

Dinner was partly paratha.