Compliments, Cooking, Mini Projects & Life in General

Compliments

The way I cook, the speed of preparation and cooking and the taste of my food was complimented. Heck! Even the tea I mixed received rave reviews.

Cooking

Is quite effortless nowadays. I might have (finally) mastered making uppuma. The other day, breakfast was uluthan kanji. A first.

Mini Projects

To document my ancestors’ history, my caste and also to make a scrap book out of a collection of religious hymns and articles that I have read from time to time in recent years.

All in all, I have 3 mini projects in hand!

Life in General

Grateful as usual though I am unsure how things would work out career wise. Wish me luck!

The boys are as delightful as always. Each day is a new learning for me, so to speak!

 

Deepavali 2014

Well, to summarise, I dropped by my in laws place for Deepavali this year. This after a gap of three years, I think.

All thanks to my dad and mom. Husband pulled an emotional stunt to them and asked them to persuade me. Well, he got lucky this time around!

All in all, my below FB post gives a  short but precise update:

Though Deepavali 2014 has come to an end, the awesome memories will remain etched forever!

feeling wonderful.

Cheating goes far past sex

Cheating goes far past sex

Editor’s Note:

This is the first story in our all-new “relationship series.” This regularly occurring feature will delve deep into the world of relationships — from his and her perspective. If you’re interested in contributing your story, email sputerman@app.com.

It’s 5:30 a.m., and your alarm goes off.

You open your eyes, and your mind starts racing — meetings, conference calls, project deadlines all loom.

Why is there always so much to do, and never enough time to get it done?

You grab your phone and scroll through your notifications as you walk into the shower, half awake.

Knowing she’s not up, you send her a text message.

“Good morning, baby. I hope you have a wonderful day.”

This text serves as two reminders: You want her to know she’s the first thing on your mind, but more importantly, she needs to realize that, regardless of how stressful or busy your days are, she’s the priority.

Sounds so perfect — but that’s not reality.

Instead, you’ll log into Instagram or Facebook, nosing into everyone else’s life, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll send that text to your girl on the way to work.

Relationships these days lack direction. People “date,” but the hell does that even mean anymore? Is it hanging out twice a month? Texting all day? Kissing here and there?

Something is missing. What’s causing relationships to falter at the rate they are? Something’s definitely lacking.

Relationships thrive on communication. Our most intimate emotions are reserved for the person we love, so how is it acceptable never to show them?

We’ve accepted so many unacceptable things — sitting at the dinner table with our phones out, arguing over text, publishing every minute of our lives on social media.

Do you know what trumps all that?

Society has accepted relationships in which we are being cheated on everyday.

When you think of cheating in the traditional sense, having sex with another person comes to mind. It’s an intimate situation in which the person you love is connecting with another while you are going about your life, loving and caring for said person.

Once you find out, all trust is lost. But think about the concept for a minute.

Webster’s Dictionary defines cheating as the deprivation of “something valuable by the use of deceit or fraud.”

Sure, sex is cheating, and maybe the most hurtful cause, but have you ever stopped to think that you’re being cheated out of your relationship everyday? Lack of communication, attention, passion, intimacy — even lack of love. Why are we OK with this, and all the communication shortcuts that have become so common?

This type of cheating brings damage much greater than that of any sexual affair. You’ve given your heart to someone, you love them with every bone in your body, but yet, you have to beg for their attention. You sit back and watch them post status updates about useless things or post pictures just so people can comment.

Take a minute to tell her she’s beautiful.

Call her after work to say, “Get dressed in 30 minutes. I’m picking you up and taking you somewhere special.”

Make an effort.

Old-fashioned love needs to make another round.

The type that is so exclusive, people can notice a mile away.

The days of holding hands, opening the car door, taking her out “just because,” sending flowers just to get a smile and leaving her notes on her car.

We have to be children when it comes to love.

We have to be vulnerable and free. That can’t happen when we’re preoccupied with the details of everyone else’s lives.

Focus on each other. When it’s all said and done, that’s all you really have.

Appreciate her. Show her how much she means to you, but more importantly, put your phone down, and dial into what’s in front of you.