Bye 2015…Hello 2016!

You have been good.
…With much gratitude, Jay.

The last three months saw me going crazy with work. I hope work front will be less crazy though logically I know for a fact it wouldn’t until I complete the project.

Life without a maid
The first few days (make it a week) was crazy. Without a maid and with MIL in the picture. I can’t say for sure what contributed to the headache. MIL realized she was old only then and was nonchalant about taking care of the kids.

I have set a routine for myself and things are going on smoothly. I do my own ironing as opposed to sending to the laundry mat like we used to. Had a shouting match with the iron as it refused to iron the clothes properly. Now we are on good terms after the initial hiccup.

I wash the bathrooms & backyard. I prepare all the vegetables (cutting & cleaning), fish are descaled, cut, washed and packed in different containers to ease MIL. Same for other non veg items. Weekends, I cook in bulk so that the food lasts for the week. Sometimes, the food finishes mid week and that’s when expectations arise though I reach home as late as 8pm.

I do have a standby weekend maid. She came twice before. Being elderly, I don’t expect her to do much. I have decided to call her once a month to do major cleaning of the house. Otherwise, I am handling the daily and weekly chores.

I miss having a maid, not.

D’s Birthday
My tiny baby is 3 today and I am at work. As hubby is on leave, he will get some satay for dinner and of course a birthday cake. Normally this time around (and for N’s birthday), I would be doing the planning and preparation on my own. Due to work and maturity (maybe), am just going with the flow and letting hubby arrange it. I even invited my parents last minute to the house for D’s birthday as I did nothing as yet.

If there is one thing I want to control or stop doing, it’s shouting and nagging. Please wish me loads of luck.

I don’t know how 2016 is going to be like. I just hope to have a year where everyone will be fine and see much happiness and success in their lives with their families.

Happy New Year!


Coming to an end

  • She is unable to wake up on time to complete her chores.
  • Even sweeping the floor seems to be an arduous task for her. What more dusting.
  • Washing dishes is a good 15 to 20 minutes chore.
  • If I don’t ask her to put the clothes into the washing machine and subsequently dry those, she won’t do it.
  • Likewise ironing clothes, washing the porch.
  • She no longer helps me in the kitchen to clean the chicken or vegetables. I have to ask her to prepare those. Princess does it after many reminders.
  • I have to repeat myself many times over.
  • She is rude to hubby when I am not around.
  • Tells him off stuff like, ‘if you keep on calling me, how can I complete my task and what time would I be going to bed’.
  • Mumbles her annoyance.
  • Snatches things off the table and storms off to the kitchen when she is reminded of her pending chores.
  • Wets the bathroom and claims to have washed it.
  • Ever forgetful nowadays…to the point she forgets to bathe.
  • Prefers to sit and watch TV.
  • Loves to eavesdrop and butt in to know more.
  • Passes inappropriate comments like how good my husband looks wearing that T-shirt.
  • Uses the children’s name to get away with things.
  • Ignores the children as she is busy with TV. I am lucky the children are not left alone with her.
  • Tells the children there are no more biscuits or any other eatables so that she doesn’t have move from her strategic spot.
  • I have to spot check her work. Imagine this, not only I have to remind her the very work she should be doing on her own, I have to do it at least twice more, before she actually starts doing it. If she does it, I have to check if she has done it properly and completely. If she claims to have done it, I still have to check if she has actually done it. Too many of ‘Yes. I have done it’ but in reality, done nothing has made me privy to this.

Finally the deed has been done. I cancelled her permit and booked her flight. She would be gone in less then 10 days.

I have vowed not take another maid. I have had enough.


Some on books & maid


It took me the longest time to read Devdutt’s Pattanaik’s Sita. Not because I didn’t enjoy it as I sure did. It was a poignant tale immersed with much added information and versions of the tale, from different regions, persons, era even. I would recommend this.

After Sita, I read the Palace of Illusions by Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni. What a take! My adoration for Karna went many notches up again. Yup, and I just snubbed the protagonist. It is not intentional. It’s just that, I like Karna that much. It was kind of nice reading the tale from Draupadi’s angle, given more prominence to herself. The ‘air/arrogance’ of Draupadi was not compromised and gave many shades for the person she turned out to be.

I think I will restart my research on Mahabharata again.


She is adding on to my misery by the day. We have finally decided to send her off this November. One’s patience is limited.


Hand Towels

She soaked those with her own clothes.


She said my youngest had finished eating a slice of cheese when in actual fact, I had to see the balled cheese in her left hand.

Unwashed clothes

She ‘hides’ it by placing a pail over the other. Leaves it like that till odour from the unwashed clothes hits your face as you open the bathroom door.


Her idea of washing the bathroom is by splashing lots of water and only that before clearing the water.


Due to her unhygenic handling of everything, she gets frequent sores on her hands. She doesn’t use any of the meds given just to prolong her ‘condition’.

Black Face

We have to put with her shit face on weekends. She pretends not to hear us when she is called. She takes 15 minutes to wash five dishes. Almost everything is done slow mo. Tried counselling her many times, it’s just not working. I bought her clothes from the same place I shop, give her the same food I eat, she has her own fully furnished room. She eats on time. In short, she is treated like any other person in the family.

That, however, doesn’t seem to stop her from lying with a straight face and cheating with her work. It gets to me that someone whom you treat so well could lie to you without remorse.

And now I am told girls from her community are just like that. We are sending her off this November way before her contract ends. I just can’t take it anymore.

I have started doing some of the house chores myself as it relieves me of the stress of monitoring her or put up her lies.



Hubby had asked her to take a box of ice-cream from the freezer to my mom’s. She did. At 6am and duly left it in the car booth. No issues there, right? There was an issue, afterall. We were not expected to leave the house till half an hour later.


Me: What is that smell in your room? Maid: I don’t know. Me: Open your drawer. She opens it. Me: What is that? Maid: *Silence* Me: Are those your unwashed clothes? Are you that lazy even to wash your own clothes? How long has it been? Maid: *Silence*




Instead of the usual new year resolutions, I see that more and more people are giving themselves some keywords to abide by. Before I could give it much thought, the first word that come to my mind is ‘patience’.

I think I need it when dealing with the maid. All the time. And with the husband. Sometimes.


A Little of This & That

I so wanted to blog about many things going on, be it about my maid, the racists in my country, the no good politicians, holier than thou humans, my weight, my frugal living, my children, husband. The list was simply endless. When the time finally came to jot these down, either my mind went blank or I wasn’t just into it. Finally, the time has come for me to pen down some of it.


  • ‘We are more powerful than you’, ‘We want to safe guard our religion’, ‘You are pendatang’, ‘You are kafir’, ‘Other races are ungrateful’, ‘Go back to your own country’-these are used by some politicians to create distrust and disharmony among the races. Many of us are at least third generation Malaysians and they call us ‘Pendatang’. Sadly, some of the common people feel the same too.
  • A certain blood shed date is also strewn  there and here. That day was one of the blackest one in Malayan history. It was the day violent clashes happened between the races, resulting in many people being hurt or killed.
  • Traces of other ancient civilisations in country are being wiped out in the name of the one religion.
  • Malaysian history is being rewritten, giving prominence to a single race/religion.
  • In the name of religion, hatred is spread. Religious forums are used to create mistrust and spread malicious stuff about other races and religions.
  • Some people fail to realise that we are humans first, no need to use religion to divide the races for own selfish gains.
  • Thankfully, the majority of us just ignore the ‘jokers’ and life is normal. It is just that sometimes, it does get to your nerves.


  • I am waiting for March 2015. That is when her contract ends.
  • Whenever I leave her on her own to do her work, she ends up not doing it or takes the longest time to do it or does 30% of the task or simply dozes off while doing the task.
  • I have given up her a long time ago.


  • Almost all of the projects I had in mind for this year (and those which sprang unannounced) are completed.
  • A built in shoe rack and a minor shelving work is what is pending.


  • As much as we fight, we bounce back pretty soon, too.
  • I learnt through many other blogs, that most couple, regardless of the number of years they are married, do fight. So, we are not an exception. It is assuring to know that!


  • I indulge in fart jokes with them.
  • The younger one is such a gem to be with. He is trying to talk and the way he says and reacts to things is simply too cute.
  • He understands EVERYTHING we say to him. Like the other day, I was telling the elder one I was going to throw his lunch box if he does not put it away. The younger one promptly carried the lunch box to the kitchen and was about the throw it into the garbage bin!
  • The older one is testing both his and my limit. Temper tantrums are abound. He is also challenging me from time to time.


Like common sense, ethics are not that common either.

All in all, life is good. I managed to complete Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club in two days. That’s a feat given the last time that happened, I was still single!

I also managed to catch a few movies.

So, yeah!