Baby Shower

Which turned out to be a traditional valaikapu instead. Of course, I had to wear a shocking red, body hugging top paired up with tied jeans. I was the only odd ball present among the ladies. I found solace with the men. May be it was the age thing (or confidence (??), I did not feel awkward one bit nor did I feel out place not did I explain myself to anybody.

Heck, I even participated in the blessings ceremony of the mother to be.

How is that!

 

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1st term school break

The week long 1st term school break is here. The boys have been sent to my parents’ place. They will be there till Friday.

The weekend has been jam packed. Throw in a hospital visit for both me and hubby, it was just great. Actually, it was not that bad, just painful!

I was suffering from a swollen wrist and pain due to the treatment by the orthopedic. The jab should give relief from the sharp jolt on my right wrist which I have been suffering since December 2015.

The treatment caused me so much of pain where the swelling and pain was up to my elbow. I couldn’t use my right hand for anything. Luckily, the pain and swelling subsided by 80%. I was only on painkillers as I am allergic to all other meds for this condition.

For nearly three week, I barely cooked at home as surprisingly MIL completely took over the kitchen. There was food on the table almost every evening. Not to mention I was away for 10 days.

We did major grocery shopping on Sunday to fill up the stock. I realise the cost of grocery went up by 10% to 15% easily. Cleaned up some fresh food in preparation.

After this break, the in laws will no longer come in the mornings to our place. Both the boys will head to their place after school. Hubby will fetch them in the evening after work.

It almost will be a win-win situation as the in laws will be in their own comfort zone and would eliminate the travelling to my place.

I will devise a scedule of sorts for the boys to keep themselves occupied after school. It will help the in laws tremendously in managing them both.

I should start reading too, pronto.

 

 

And so I will be redeeming my house soon…

Long story short, right after the first term school break, both the boys will be sent to my in laws place after school. Currently, the in laws come in the morning and stay put till evening. They leave once I am back from work.

Both boys leave for school in the morning. The earliest to come home is D, at 12.30pm. N on the hand, reaches home at 1.30pm the latest. Basically, the in laws need spend only half a day till I come back from work.

Let’s just say everything is not rosy as it seems. The house looks like a warzone every single night I come back home. If there’s one thing I can’t stand, it’s the sticky floor. And I am moderately OCD.

Regardless of the time I reach home, I clean the kitchen, tidy the house, sweep the floor and mop the living room & kitchen floor. Every night. Since last December. I reach home late, even at 9.30pm sometimes, ever since I came back from my 10 days long business trip. I have not cooked a single day since then. Work has been crazy.

My MIL can be untidy in the kitchen while she is cooking.. That said, she keeps her house well. Since this is my house…oh well, let’s not get into that.

So anyways, since they are technically free from the boys till half day, we felt it is only fair for them to rest and do whatever they want in the comfort of their own home.

Not before the husband audits the house, that is.

The arrangement is almost similar to what we had before except that the boys will head to school from our home now that both has started schooling. The respective transporters to send them to in laws place as opposed to our home. Hubby will pick them up after work from his parents’ place.

I will head home after work. Will either cook or buy dinner and be ready to welcome them back home daily just like before. At least, the time I spend on cleaning the house everyday can be used to spend with my children.

Date with N

For the longest time, N has been asking me to take him out. Not a family outing. Just himself and I. Strictly no thambi, in that. LOL.

Not to mention (again for the longest time) wanted to watch a Tamil movie in the cinema. As D wanted to visit his grandparents and hubby wanted to do some reading for his coming exams, I decided to drive D to my parents place.

After which, N & I shot off to the nearest mall. As luck would have it, there were few Indian movies playing. We bought tickets to Rajini Murugan.

It was a nice fun movie. There’s something about the heroine. Such a pleasant face to look at!!

The cinema was almost 90% unoccupied. Seeing the other two patrons who came in after us changed seats, we did too. We took one of the couple seat which was higher up and without the arm rest! It wasn’t easy for me to move seats. I did it anyway. LOL!

Rajini-Murugan-Movie-Stills-5.jpgAfter the movie, N wanted to play in the kids’ area. Spent sometime there before looking out for some toys. We didn’t get any so N changed route to eat McD. I had my favorite Prosperity burger and he, happy meal.

After a while, we left the place to fetch D from my parents’ and drove back home.

Daily Routine

Morning
5 am Wake Up
Wash all three water bottles for home consumption. Boil water to fill up the jugs and water flask. Prepare breakfast for the boys. Place the breakfast & water bottles in the bag. Tidy up the kitchen. Bring down the diaper and change of clothes for noon usage for the boys. Dry clothes (not a daily chore).

6.15 am Wake up N & get him ready
6.35 am Get D ready
6.50 am Send off N and prepare milk for D
7.00 am I get ready and tidy the room.
7.20 am D & I leave home

6.00 pm
I bathe and head off to the kitchen. Cook or heat up food. Tidy the kitchen.

8.00 pm
After dinner, sweep the house and wipe the living room tables. Mop the living room and kitchen floors. Wash bathrooms (not a daily chore). Boil water to fill up the jugs. Check boys’ bags. Ready N’s homework for tomorrow. Fold clothes (not a daily chore).

9.30 pm Snooze time for the boys

Orientation Day

We had orientations for both the boys on the same day. Hubby followed N (my baby is going to primary one) while I followed D (my tiny baby is going nursery).

Both were excited to go to their respective school/kindy. D was so at home in the kindy. Obedient and started coloring the hippo the class teacher gave him. He didn’t cry.

I was emotional. I was the only parent there in his class. There I stood like an idiot looking at my child, not even once he looked at my side nor did he notice me leaving. As much as I was proud and happy for his adaptability, my heartstrings were tugging. Emotional, I know.

 

 

Age Appropriate

Both my sons use the term penis for their privates. They know what a vagina is.

The elder one knows about period and that women of a certain age use sanitary napkins, ie, diapers as he calls them.

He knows it is inappropriate to touch a woman’s breasts, having a sudden fixation on them recently. He begin observing that men are flat chested and women have breasts.

Babies…ah…he knows it takes eggs to make babies.

My elder one is 5 going on 6, while the other is 2 going on 3.

I do not believe in shutting them up when faced with sudden questions which I am not prepared to answer. What I do believe, is to tell them the facts in an age appropriate manner.

Some facts, when it gets a tad too clinical like the hows and whys of the monthly cycle, I promised to explain in more depth when they are slightly bigger.

Which is fair, I think.